In this cnn.com article, the issue of abandoning teen children is brought up. Some parents are beginning to abuse such a “safe haven” law to…

In this cnn.com article, the issue of abandoning teen children is brought up. Some parents are beginning to abuse such a “safe haven” law to abandon teens who they can’t control. I can understand that some of these parents/guardians who’ve abandoned their teen children are at the end of their rope and have turned to a last resort to deal with their children’s difficulties.   But abandoning an older child (or really, any child) just doesn’t seem reasonable no matter how much a parent believes they’ve “done everything” to deal with their children’s problems. I just don’t believe that a teen’s behavioral problems is reason enough for abandonment by a parent. Parents who want to abandon “difficult” teens can say all they want about being unable to care for their children because of such problems, but ultimately the responsibility of their children’s care rests on the parents and guardians. Abandonment is an extreme measure to deal with a child’s problems.   The repercussions of abandonment are for the teens traumatic.   I agree with what someone from the Child Welfare League says, that these parents who end up abandoning difficult children don’t know how to get help. Even if they feel that they’ve “done everything”, chances are there is another approach they’re missing completely. I know that in many areas, especially in rural areas, there aren’t a lot of resources for teen problems.   Knowing how to get help is one step – you call 1-800-RUNAWAY to get confidential support and referrals.  But what are some other ways to deal with these problems?   – Allyson

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