At one point I truly believed that holding in your thoughts to protect others’ feelings was possibly the best thing that you can do to better…

At one point I truly believed that holding in your thoughts to protect others’ feelings was possibly the best thing that you can do to better relationships, in a sense taking one for the team. But what happens if you don’t even know if you’re on the same team as the others? That’s the dilemma I’ve faced recently. When you don’t speak up you don’t fix what need to be fixed, or even clarify the fuzzy areas of your so-called friendships. For me, it seems as if I’m worsening them. Really, if you can’t tell who your friends are then can you really say you’re being a good friend yourself. So, I think, against all my beliefs, you need a little vinegar in a relationship to keep it around. And with that, I’m stepping away from my sugary sweet approach and taking my hand out of the cookie jar. How many of you have had to do the same? How many of you have never been a fan of the nice approach in the first place?
– Eric