When someone says, “out of the kindness of their heart,” does it mean that they have a certain amount to dole out. I’d like to think not, but then of…

When someone says, “out of the kindness of their heart,” does it mean that they have a certain amount to dole out. I’d like to think not, but then of course I would, being someone who throws around pleasantries like a piñata throws out its candy, only without the bat. Being told you’re “too nice” hurts a bit, doesn’t it? Honestly, how nice is too nice though? I think it varies from person to person, though really, can you be too nice? I know that some people, myself included, use niceness to solidify friendships, more for personal reassurance than anything else, often not knowing if it’s necessary or not, because god forbid knowing what someone else is thinking! Excuse the sarcasm, if you will. It’s just that I’ve heard the phrase “too nice” used in my context far too often; sadly, it’s not something that will change any time soon, I think. I think niceness comes from expectations, you know, the whole “treat-everyone-the-way-you-want-to-be-treated” thing. True, I think some overshoot it though; if genuine kindness is what you’re aiming for, easy to miss. But when it’s just right, why turn it away with such a phrase? It’s always puzzled me: what does it mean for a person when they say that someone is too nice, and why do they say it? Is it because they’d never find such kindness in themselves so they don’t understand it, or that they’d rather not feel obligated to return the favor. Ouch. Thoughts?
– Eric