I have noticed that many people do not know how to deal with their emotions effectively and so shut them away. This is faulty for two reasons. One is…

I have noticed that many people do not know how to deal with their emotions effectively and so shut them away. This is faulty for two reasons. One is that they do not learn how to deal with their emotions effectively. The second is that their emotions don’t go away just because they don’t deal with them. Often times it reaches a breaking point and then they have to come out. When they do, it is generally not in a pleasant or healthy manner. Also, by coming out in this fashion they may incur more emotion that the person does not want/know how to deal with. As is rather evident this incurrence of more harsh emotion only leads to perpetuating this cycle. By repressing these emotions, it is really a denial of what they are. In my experience, we can try as hard as we want to not be who and what we are but not matter what we cannot change the emotions that we feel. We can only change how we deal with them. We can always learn how to better deal with them. For example, if you like the color blue you can tell yourself that you don’t over and over, never wear it/keep it, and talk badly about it and still you will like it. Eventually you may actually convince yourself that you hate it but somewhere you do. This leads to much pain and confusion. This is a bad example because we constantly change what we like and don’t like but it does illustrate how repression works. You can substitute the color blue with an emotion or whatever you want. In essence, I am saying repression is not healthy and generally will have chaotic consequences.
– Kevin