I have come to understand cycles of behavior better recently. Our emotions let us understand what we must do in a situation. Then it is up for us to…

I have come to understand cycles of behavior better recently. Our emotions let us understand what we must do in a situation. Then it is up for us to use reason to aim our action to what we deem best. Then we can fire. Many times throughout my life I have left out the middle step; choosing rather to feel emotion and make the action simply based on that. This has led me to myriad messes and mishaps that could have been avoided if I had chosen to take the time to aim. This is a cycle because firing an action also induces another emotion thus initiating the readying step once again. I feel that I was mistaken to say that I ignored the middle step. Rather I choose not to use reason during it. The aiming part is what dictates how we will fire/proceed with the action. It is very important to use reason during the aim step so that we can make more certain the outcome will be in line with our goals and purposes. If we do not use reason during this step then we are likely to get consequences we would avoid otherwise. All behavior can follow this pattern and I urge you to examine it. I have found it helpful with addiction issues, acting out on anger, and facing my anxiety and fear. It can, however, be applied to more positive emotion as well to stop one from going overboard.
– Kevin

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