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There will be times when you and your parents disagree. There will be times when you will become upset with your parents or vice versa. However, respect is something that should remain constant and not become compromised regardless of the situation.


Sometimes parents get lost in their authoritarian role and forget that respect is a mutual thing. Parents lose the notion of showing respect in order to they need to show respect to their children as well. Do you feel like your parents disrespect you when they get upset? If so, have you ever expressed how that makes you feel?


Respect should be a household boundary that everyone inside of that household should have to display, no matter what their age is. If you and your parents have household meetings, respect is a great topic to bring up. Another great way to address the issue of respect could be to write a letter expressing your feelings.


– Dyanne

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  • K

    No offense, but I completely disagree. Parents expect respect, yet think they are the boss therefore get mad when they don’t recieve it. Why do the parents get respect first? If they sit there, treating their kids like they’re worthless, they don’t deserve respect.

  • Adrian

    I’m 13 my mom is not helping me when I get home she gets mad at me and she won’t let me see my father and family.i would be fine with a little whopin but she gets cords,hangers and anything else.i get bullied at school there is more to my story I’m just tired of this shit.

  • 1800RUNAWAY

    K –

    That’s the point we brought up here – “Sometimes parents get lost in their authoritarian role and forget that respect is a mutual thing.”

    As we suggested, bringing up the lack of mutual respect may be appropriate in some situations. Respect is a two-way street.

  • 1800RUNAWAY

    Hi Adrian

    Whoa, it sounds like your mom is using a lot of physical discipline, and you don’t know why. It sounds like being bullied is making the situation worse.

    We can help you on our hotline 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), by email at info (at) 1800RUNAWAY.org, or on bulletin boards at 1800runawaybb.org. If you decide to reach out to us, we can talk with you about some options you might have in terms of talking to your mom and feeling supported.

  • chaun

    i’m 12 and my mom always yells at me and she doesn’t respect me she always says she is the parent and she will do what she wants we always stay in the house when she is mad and i’m sick of her s**t and im ready to just run away help please i don’t have a email and i don’t have a phone how do i contact you?

  • chaun

    i come here every day can i see if you replied to my thing by coming here?

  • 1800RUNAWAY

    Chaun –

    It sounds like your relationship with your mom is stressing you out, to the point where it feels like leaving is the only option.

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  • Dakari

    Hi im 15 and i want to runaway because my mom and i been fighting . she tell me to leave but every time i try to she threating me if i leave she calling the cops. i want to leave to go live with my father but she says that when i leave she will sign custody of me to the state and i will live in a boot camp. if i runaway and tell the police i want to stay with my father would they let me?

  • vanessa

    Respect is a big word. My dad doesnt have much respect for me therefore I don’t respect him no more he says a lot of crap to me everday I feel deppressed. I wanna leave my house but I don’t know where to find a shelter 🙁

  • Ivori

    I’m 14 my moms calls be a fat ass she calls me out my name I tried over doseing my self but it didn’t work I want to run away but have no place to go I’m just tired && she keep her self up && thinks about me last. I’m just tired of all of it what should I do if someone don’t get me out this house I’m going to KILL myself

  • Jasleen

    Hi Dakari

    It sounds like you and your mom don’t get along too great, which leads to mixed and hurtful messages on whether or not she wants you in the house.

    As far as specifics about whether or not you can live with your dad – we’d have to talk with you to find out more before we say definitively one way or the other what can happen. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929, by email at info (at) 1800RUNAWAY.org, or on bulletin boards at 1800runawaybb.org. If you decide to reach out to us, we can talk with you about your options.

  • Jasleen

    Hi Vanessa

    It sounds like it’s really hard to have your dad say disrespectful things to you every day. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929, by email at info (at) 1800RUNAWAY.org, or on bulletin boards at 1800runawaybb.org. We can help you find a shelter, or discuss other options you have available.

  • Jasleen

    Hi Ivori

    It sounds like your relationship with your mother is leading you to consider some drastic options. If you are serious about hurting yourself, please contact us (800-786-2929) or a suicide hotline (800-273-8255) for immediate help. We can help you figure out some options for being in a less trying environment.

  • I am 16 years old and come from an abusive life. My mother remarried seven years ago. Before the abuse was physical(with her last husband) Now with her new husband its mental. He calls me fat ass. Says im no good, say im stupid and that i have a mental problem. Here recently he says that if i dont like what hes doing then i can get out, and he threatens to through me out, and the last time I tried to leave, my mom threatened to call the cops and report me as a runaway. Today he asked me if i wanted to be live in the house still, and im tired of lying to him and telling him that im happy there, so i told him that i don’t know. So if he told me to leave, and i did, would i be considered a runaway?

  • 1-800-RUNAWAY staff

    Hi Nicolle

    Thanks for reaching out. This sounds like a difficult situation to be in. It’s never ok for anyone to abuse you, whether it’s verbal or physical. If your mom’s new husband asks you to leave, you are not considered a runaway, but a throwaway.

    You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929, by email at info (at) 1800RUNAWAY.org, or on the bulletin boards (link at top of page). We can help you discuss what options you have available.

  • pepper dine

    I’m Asian Indian and in our house, i have no right to express my opinion because my parents, especially my dad, think I’m talking back. I basically shut down when my parents become angry. My mother yells at me and says things I know she doesn’t mean, but I can’t open my mouth to tell her off. My father doesn’t say anything to me – he basically ignores me in every aspect. I’ve learned to keep my thoughts to myself, to simply exhibit a shallow image of myself so I can keep myself alive inside, and to not be myself around them. Does this hurt? Immensely, but this is the only way i know how to cope. I’ve never been myself around my parents since I entered high school. College helped because I got to get away, but now I hate being home on breaks. Anyways, my parents expect respect, but I’ll never be able to give them that and I don’t expect anything from them in return. I’ll basically do my duty as a daughter – look after them when they get old – but anything beyond that I won’t be able to do. Besides, they have my younger sister who lives up to their expectations in every way and who is allowed to blow her steam even though I’m not.

  • Joseph

    I am only 14 I do not like my mother she hits me calls me names like fat ass fat fuck and it makes me depressed it does not help when she does it she does it all the time when she gets mad she also does it if I get a bad grade in my classes and even if I do bring them up she still does it I’m just thinking of running away and trying to start a new life. I would love to have a different mother who would not hit me or call me hurtful names and could actually say that I love them and proudly call that person my mother.
    Can’t call on my phone but can probably text or email

  • NRS Communications Team

    Joseph,

    Your situation sounds tough! NRS wants to help. If you can’t call, we encourage you to send a crisis email to info@1800RUNAWAY.org or join us for live chat between 4:30-11pm central standard time by clicking on the live chat button at the top of the website or post on our forum: http://bulletinboards.1800runaway.org/forum.php and the call center staff will respond. We are here for you!

  • hey

    My moms mean she would at f u to me and all that

  • NRS Communication Team

    Hey!

    Your situation sounds tough! NRS wants to help. If you can’t call, we encourage you to send a crisis email to info@1800RUNAWAY.org or join us for live chat between 4:30-11pm central standard time by clicking on the live chat button at the top of the website or post on our forum: http://bulletinboards.1800runa… and the call center staff will respond. We are here for you!

  • Bri

    My dad disrespect me everyday calling me a bitch saying all I’m good for is opening my leg and calling me a hoe that’s stuff hurts