Surviving a break-up

You and your boyfriend/girlfriend just broke up. What went wrong? How can you get over it and start feeling better? Consider this:

Common reasons couples break up:

• Too physical too quickly
• Not enough time alone together
• Too much time alone, not enough time with other friends
• Not being friends first before becoming lovers
• Initial attraction not enough to sustain a relationship
• Listening to what others say - letting them convince you to break up for "your own good."

It's a good idea to explore what happened in your relationship, and what you've learned. Hopefully, your next relationship will be even better. Now you've suffered the heartache of break-up, what can you do to move forward?

• Give yourself lots of time to heal. Time will heal your wounds, really.
• Talk to people you trust about what you're feeling. Let them know how they can help: If you want them to just listen, tell them. If you want suggestions for what to do, tell them. If you want to get 'fixed up' with other people, tell them. Help them help you.
• Recognize you're not alone! Open your eyes and ears, you'll hear lots of stories of frustrated love.
• Find creative outlets for your energy: write poetry, draw pictures, design a website, run a 5K, play some ball, etc.
• Do anything you like to do (that's healthy and safe).
• Laugh and be silly. Try comedy movies, stand-up acts, a trip to the zoo ... go to places and be with people that make you laugh.
• Take in some sunlight. Light, bright rooms and the great outdoors can really perk you up.

Remember, it's okay to feel down – it's normal. But if you find that you are so depressed that you can't function (just want to stay in bed all day, don't want to talk to anyone, don't even want to eat or shower, etc.), then maybe it's time you seek someone outside to talk to. Try calling the National Runaway Switchboard, 1-800-RUNAWAY. Your call is anonymous, confidential and free. You'll talk to other people who understand because they have been there themselves. You can also request a professional referral to someone

Have other questions? Talk to us. Call 1-800-RUNAWAY.