Concerned Adults
Whether you are having trouble talking to the youth in your life at home or they have already run away, we can help. We will listen and assist you in developing a plan.
Tips for Parents, Guardians, and Other Concerned Adults
Caring for children is not easy, but building a trusting, strong relationship with the young people in your life is beneficial to everyone. The National Runaway Safeline offers tips to help you effectively interact with youth. The tips below were developed from a past Youth and Parent Tips Campaign, which offered advice on how to handle certain situations between youth and adults.
- Your relationship with the child in your life is always more important than any issue or disagreement.
- Communication is key. Listening is a skill, so it is important to hear youth out before rendering judgement or an opinion.
- Tell youth you will listen to them and talk with them no matter what the topic, worry, or concern and that nothing they do will make you stop loving them.
- Validate your teen’s point of view. Sometimes kids just want to know that you hear what they say, even if you don’t agree.
- Collaborate on rules. Your teen is more likely to comply with rules he or she helped set up.
- Young people are going to make mistakes. It’s a part of the process of growing up. Let them know you will still be there when they stumble and fall.
- If the child in your life tells you or shows signs of being bullied, don’t ignore it and hope it goes away. Document it and contact the school.
- Tell the child in your life it’s okay to get angry and to express it in a healthy way.
- Treat youth as you would like to be treated.
Frequently Asked Questions
If it seems your child may be thinking about leaving home or has threatened to do so, try to talk with them about the issues and their options. We also encourage you to consider these questions:
- If my child runs away, where will they stay? Is it safe?
- What about school? How will my child continue to get an education?
- How will my child support themselves? Shelter? Food? Transportation?
- How can I make a better environment at home, together?
- What does my child need from me? What do I need from them?
If your child has already left home, consider these options and questions. Connect with the National Runaway Safeline for support in figuring out the next steps, such as:
- Think about where they youth might have gone and what might have led them to make decision to run.
- Contact friends, family, school, neighbors to see if anyone has had contact with the youth recently.
- Call local law enforcement to file a missing persons or runaway report.
- Contact the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children and any local runaway clearinghouses to report your youth as a runaway.
One way to begin communicating is with our message service. You can give us a message for your child and we’ll deliver it if they call 1-800-RUNAWAY for any messages.
Mediated conference calls (a youth initiated program) are another option for youth and parents/legal guardians to discuss difficult issues with NRS support. While everyone is on the line together, we will help make sure that everyone feels heard and plan that everyone agrees upon is made.
Like youth, parents and guardians have the right to feel safe in their own home as well. Local programs and services can help strengthen the relationship between you and your child. By connecting with NRS through our hotline and online services, we may be able to connect you with those programs.
We will listen to your family’s story without judgement and help you with create a plan to improve the situation.
- Our services are confidential and your safety is priority. If someone is hurting your child and you provide us with your name and/or child’s name, address and the abuser’s name, we are required by law to report it.
We provide the same support — no matter how you contact us.
- The hotline provides an opportunity for an immediate and thorough conversation. CALL NOW: 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929)
- If you feel more comfortable writing to us, then use our live chat, email, or public forum.
Reach out to us in a way that works best for you. We are here to listen and here to help.
Resources for Concerned Adults
PACER – Founded in 2006, PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center actively leads social change to prevent childhood bullying, so that all youth are safe and supported in their schools, communities and online. PACER provides innovative resources for students, parents, educators, and others, and recognizes bullying as a serious community issue that impacts education, physical and emotional health, and the safety and well-being of students.
StopBullying.gov – StopBullying.gov provides information from various government agencies on what bullying is, what cyberbullying is, who is at risk, and how to prevent and respond to bullying.
Child Find of America – This organization is working towards the day when every child thrives in a safe and healthy environment. Child Find’s mission is to provide outstanding professional services designed to prevent and resolve child abduction and the family conflicts that can lead to abduction and abuse.
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) – The National Center for Missing & Exploited Children’s (NCMEC) mission is to help find missing children, reduce child sexual exploitation, and prevent child victimization. NCMEC works with families, victims, private industry, law enforcement and the public to assist with preventing child abductions, recovering missing children, and providing services to deter and combat child sexual exploitation. Its Team H.O.P.E. offers compassionate peer support, empathy, understanding, kindness, and friendship to families who are still searching, have recovered their children safely, have located their children deceased, and families with children who have been sexually exploited.
Polly Klaas Foundation – The Polly Klaas Foundation is dedicated to the safety of all children, the recovery of missing children, and public policies that keep children safe in their communities. Since their founding in 1993, the Foundation has used compassion, experience, and professionalism to help more than 10,000 families find missing children.
Prevent Child Abuse America – Prevent Child Abuse America is the nation’s oldest and largest organization committed to preventing child abuse and neglect before it happens. They promote programs and resources informed by science that enable kids, families, and entire communities to thrive—today, tomorrow, and for generations to come.
National Center for Homeless Education – You have a right to continue a homeless child’s or youth’s education in the school of origin for the duration of homelessness and for the remainder of the academic year, if the child or youth becomes permanently housed during an academic year; or enroll the homeless child or youth in any public school that non homeless students who live in the attendance area in which the child or youth is actually living are eligible to attend.
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) – The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) is a government agency that leads public health efforts to advance the behavioral health of the nation and to improve the lives of individuals living with mental and substance use disorders, and their families. Its mission is to reduce the impact of substance misuse and mental illness on America’s communities.
Center for Improvement of Child Care (CICC) – Since its founding as a non-profit community service, research and training organization in 1974, the California-based CICC has conducted a wide range of parenting education, support and advocacy services, projects and programs. Some have been of national scope, others statewide, countywide and citywide.
Circle of Parents – Circle of Parents provides a friendly, supportive environment led by parents and other caregivers. It’s a place where anyone in a parenting role can openly discuss the successes and challenges of raising children. Circle of Parents groups meet weekly, are free of charge and foster an open exchange of ideas, support, information and resources. These kinds of groups serve those parenting children of all ages and families of all types and are open across the country.
OffenderWatch Initiative (OWI) – The OffenderWatch Initiative is dedicated to increasing public awareness of registered sex offenders through education, community notification, and better relations between the public and law enforcement. OWI supports legislation such as Megan’s Law, the Jessica Lunsford Act, the Adam Walsh Act, Jenna’s Law, Erin’s Law and other legislation to prevent future victimization.
Parents for Megan’s Law – The Crime Victims Center, Inc. (Parents for Megan’s Law) is dedicated to the prevention and treatment of child sexual abuse and rape, the provision of comprehensive trauma-sensitive support services to victims of violent crime, and elderly, minor, and disabled victims of all crime. Violence directed against victims is an abuse of power, often directed at our most at risk, and must be met with unwavering resolve to hold perpetrators accountable, and provide victims with the support and services they need.
Youth Resource Database
Find help near you — quick, confidential, and free
This directory is designed to help youth, caregivers, and providers find safe, local, and national resources — like housing, counseling, legal aid, and youth services. This database is not a complete list of every resource available, but it’s a good place to start.
If you’re in immediate crisis, call or text 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) — we’re here 24/7 and it’s confidential.